A safe space to rediscover you, reclaim your power, and finally pour back into yourself.
Becoming the Woman You Lost (Poem)
Keepin’ It Real with Dr. La
Question: Why do I give too much too soon in relationships?
Answer: Because somewhere along your journey, you learned that love had to be earned.
For many women, this doesn't just start in adulthood- it starts in childhood. When love, attention, or acceptance felt inconsistent, you may have adapted by becoming "The Giver." The one who shows up first, gives the mosts, fixes the most, and loves the hardest...hoping that this time, it will be enough to be chosen.
Giving too much too soon isn't because your're "too much." It's because you were taught-directly or indirectly-that who you are by yourself might not be enough.
So you overextend.
You overgive.
You overprove.
But real love doesn't require you to exhaust yourself to recive it.
Part of your healing journey is learning this:
You don't have to give everything upfront to be worthy of someone staying.
You're already enough-without performing for love and/or acceptance.
Gaining Your Power Back: Where It Begins (Words of Wisdom)
This journey isn't about becoming someone new...
It's about returning to who you were before you felt the need to prove your worth.
At the beginning of gaining your power back, it looks like this:
- Saying "let me think about it" instead of immediately saying yes
- Pausing before you pour into others
- Noticing when you feel drained instead of fulfilled
- Choosing yoursel-even when it feels uncomfortable
Power isn't loud in the beginning.
Sometimes, it's a quiet decision to no longer abandon yourself.
And that's where everything starts to change.
A Journal Moment: Your Becoming
Take a moment for yourself...
What do you want the rest of your journey to look like-for YOU?
Not for who needs you.
Not for who expects from you.
Not for who benefits from you.
But FOR YOU!
What to journal:
- The woman you want to become...
- The peace you want to feel...
- The boundaries you're ready to experience...
Let this be the moment you start choosing you-on purpose.
A Message From Me to You
I'm so proud of you.
Proud of you for even being here...
For being open to explore...
For being willing to grow, heal, and see yourself differently.
If you're ready to go deeper in this journey, I invite you to join my Healing Behind the Strength Membership for only $9.99/month.
Inside, you'll receive:
- Transformational Courses
- A full library of worksheets that you can access anytime
- Audio lessons and encouragement with Dr. La
- Weekly eye-opening lessons
- Live coaching with Dr. La
- A safe supportive community of members gaining their power together
- Group Support and more
This space is designed to help you grow, reflect, and heal-especially if you're on a budget and still want access to real support and tools.
While this membership doesn't replace one-on-one coaching, it does give you access to guidance, structure, and a community that can help you move forward in powerful ways.
You don't have to do this alone. When you're ready...I'll be right here waiting for you.
Welcome to your Becoming.
-Dr. La
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